JinB.

First, let me say that I am very happy to finally find and post here on your new thread.

Second, you are really getting some major lessons about trust. I can only imagine how dfificult piecing and trusting will be once my H decides to make a real commitment to mending here. I am so glad you did not lead yourself into showing up at some party he was maybe attending. Had he been there, I think you would have really been feeling foolish and transparent. I can only tell you that when I showed up QUITE BY ACCIDENT at a bookstore when H was meeting an OW, I felt oddly defensive... like I had to explain my presence and my reason for having appeared at a bookstore!!! At least, I had the comforting understaniding that I had NO IDEA he would be there.

maya