I'm pressed for time, but I wanted to copy and paste this before I forget about it - DUH! It's from MovingForward's thread, quoting from Ellie on someone in Newcomers (who is the second cousin of...).
Quote: It was about the WAS telling the OP that they are back with their spouse and ending all contact.
Quote: Maybe some of it is fear of losing their safety net, but I think a lot of it is plain embarrassment. After all, they told the OP all kinds of negative things about their marriage in order to justify the affair. Now they have to go back and say "gee, it's really not like that, and my spouse is actually a great person, and I love them". How hard is that gonna be???
I have been pissed off that H has never flat out told the OW to leave him alone. I never stopped to think that he didn't do it because he felt like a big doofus. .... How stupid would he look to say to her HE asked me to get back together and make the M work ... Now I get it. He said he just gets off the phone with her when she calls. ... He is never going to tell her. He just wants her to go away. He even said she will eventually get the hint .... Reading that was definitely an AHA moment for me.
Interesting thought. I knew S. would be hard-pressed to tell Swiss Miss about me, especially since he was going back and forth, but I never actually put my finger on it so clearly. As is MF's H, S. is just avoiding the subject altogether by not calling her. She, too, has gotten the "hint" and not called in 6 weeks (2 months?). The only thing is, she will eventually call. They are "friends," have been for 10 years. Eventually, he has to tell her.
*** The weekend and last few days have been great with S., and we are getting along well.
Tuesday night I had the great pleasure of meeting GBO over Ethiopian food with H2H (already met, of course!). We not only shared spicy African stews on a huge platter, soaked up by spongy injera, but also insights and words of encouragement about each other's situation. It was a lovely evening.
Last night met TKKC1 (from Newcomers) for the first time, along with "old" friend Merrick, whom you all know from Piecing, for an impromptu dinner at a downtown French-Moroccan haunt. Also a lovely evening, if completely different from girls' night out!
Tonight S. is out with a (cute F) colleague, and various things (among them, yes, snooping) have led me to believe he is lying to me somewhat about what he's doing. H2H knows the details and has told me to drop it - I'm still not sure what I'm going to do. I may post about it later, depending on the outcome and if I feel like it's a big enough deal.
Yuck. Two steps forward, one step back, sometimes. At least I'm still going forward.
No more ILYs since the one from last week. But I'm OK with it so far.
But I'm OK with it so far. 
