So last night S. came over, and we snuggled into bed. He was being extra affectionate and kept calling me Miss This and Miss That in a flirty way. I fixed the ice cream and we watched the first three minutes of a movie before we decided we were too exhausted, and so we ML instead. Afterward, as we were dozing, I reached up to kiss him and I said, "Goodnight, sweetie." He squeezed me very hard and said "Goodnight, Jennifer. I love you."

I was not expecting this, and the physical reaction I had surprised even me. I practically squeezed the life out of him and said "ILY too," and after a minute I said "It means so much to me to hear you say that." And then he squeezed the life out of me, too.

And so after a pause I thought it was a good time to say, "You know, I'm sorry I reacted badly to the flowers. I had such a good time last night, and I was so happy you took me out - I really like it when you take me out - and I don't want to take away from that. I really didn't want to take away from that." And he nodded, and we snuggled down and went to sleep.

Now I can really get down to the business of letting him KNOW what my LL are and how he can speak them, rather than getting all flipped out and stupid when he can't read my mind (and, of COURSE, finding out how I can speak his LL effectively).

This is the weekend we do our geeky LL charts.

So yesterday's positives:
1. I let him have cave time without pursuing
2. I Acted As If when I called, and when he called me back, rather than letting the tension and tentativeness from the morning creep into my voice
3. I validated the hell out of him for taking me out, which is something that is important to me and he rarely does
4. I got an ILY!!!
5. I was able to apologize for crazymaking and validate at the same time, without making a big deal out of it
6. All is forgiven
7. He wants to meet up with FF and me tonight, after FF and me have dinner and catch up - showing interest in my friends
8. I asked him to set the alarm and he said, "Absolutely not! When you do it, you lean over me and stick your cute butt up into the air. No way am I missing out on that." (sorry if it's TMI )


shameless plug for my NEWEST thread