I don't know why it's so difficult to figure out what health is when it comes to sexuality. I am sure there are studies that validate all points of view and you can always find a group to support your way of thinking.
My sister-in-law has no interest in having children. Now, we are biological creatures designed for procreation, so is she unhealthy for having this POV? My personal feeling is that she is missing out but is not necessarily unhealthy, and it would be wrong of me to judge her decision.
As humans, our minds/emotions affect our most basic animal/primitive side, and that's why there are so many variations on a theme.
I was LD for a long time after having kids, probably because I couldn't see myself as being sexual while doing the maternal thing. Perhaps nature designs us to shut those feelings off to tend to our kids ( even HP had a few weeks of LDness) and maybe I had an overreaction. But was it unhealthy? I was happy enough in that mind frame, had friends who felt the same way, and you couldn't convince me otherwise.
When there is no clearcut right or wrong, the mistake we make is feeling that our way of thinking must be the right way. A clearcut right is to eat healthily and a clearcut wrong is to stay away from too much sugar when you're diabetic. But we will never agree on what the healthy standards are for many things in life.
Maybe when our spouses feel we are not judging them as much and we can agree to disagree, the whole system relaxes, as in Corri's case, and compromise is possible. And maybe there are just some situations where for all the understanding in the world, there is no solution and you have to go on from there.
