The attorney I am dealing with now on the incident with my van said we may revisit the divorce settlement after we get this other mess taken care of.
Right now D is just letting the house at PK sit, and it definitely has that empty closed up smell. I don't even like to go in it anymore.
Almost nothing has been done to get it ready to sell, and after August of this year according to the settlement if I spend money on it I can't get it back. He on the other hand gets to pull out house payments and repairs before the equity is split after it sells.
So I think the attorney I am with now was going to see if there was a way to push him a bit. I know my dad wants him pushed, but I owe dad for my down payment. Although at least once I get the home equity loan that will pay a part of what I owe dad back.
Do I want to have the attorney try to push D? I'm not sure. If I do what am I basing that decision on? Most of his possessions are still in the house and I think he is still a rather confused person and the house at one time I believe he was using as a sort of refuge. Although I am not sure he has been back since the van incident.
On the other hand it isn't my place to worry about what is best for him, but to take care of Pam.
See what I mean I am still confused as to what 'me' really wants to do?
The house belongs to both of us.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
