Quote: I gotta agree with Ellie...while I'm sure the aftermath of the accident is difficult to deal with it's hard to ignore the "priceless" feeling at the same time.
Yes, I agree!
I do think it did help me to start with the moving on! It seemed to release me from the sitch somewhat. Not sure that makes sense but it is the feeling I currently have.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
The attorney I am dealing with now on the incident with my van said we may revisit the divorce settlement after we get this other mess taken care of.
Right now D is just letting the house at PK sit, and it definitely has that empty closed up smell. I don't even like to go in it anymore.
Almost nothing has been done to get it ready to sell, and after August of this year according to the settlement if I spend money on it I can't get it back. He on the other hand gets to pull out house payments and repairs before the equity is split after it sells.
So I think the attorney I am with now was going to see if there was a way to push him a bit. I know my dad wants him pushed, but I owe dad for my down payment. Although at least once I get the home equity loan that will pay a part of what I owe dad back.
Do I want to have the attorney try to push D? I'm not sure. If I do what am I basing that decision on? Most of his possessions are still in the house and I think he is still a rather confused person and the house at one time I believe he was using as a sort of refuge. Although I am not sure he has been back since the van incident.
On the other hand it isn't my place to worry about what is best for him, but to take care of Pam.
See what I mean I am still confused as to what 'me' really wants to do?
The house belongs to both of us.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Some decisions to make that feel like trying to play God.
B's blood work came back better and the vet said if we are going to try giving her anesthetic and doing a dental now is the time.
She also said we are at a crossroads, do we try it and hopefully help her, or do we leave her on the antibiotics for the rest of her life. Either way if it doesn't go well there is lots of room for what if we had done the other instead.
Not that D would have been any help with a decision like this, but it does drive home that I am alone to make this decision!
This morning I have been reading on isofluorane gas and non-rebreathing circuits.
We may help the chronic infection that she has had all summer or we may throw her into kidney failure or some other problem and I am just undecided what to do.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Everyone please keep the shelties and I in your prayers Friday.
Unless something changes we are going to give it a try. My vet posted B's case to what I take is a vet bb and two geriatric specialists recommeded going ahead with the dental.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Pam - you are always in my prayers but there will be a special one on Friday - Prayers for Cookie will be appreciated too - she is in a family way - by Buster no less. Should be due just before Christmas.
I will be thinking of my bb friends as I sit in the waiting room anxiously waiting for a report on my little old lady. All of the kids actually, but her I am the most concerned about!
Odga,
Enjoy the puppies. If I ever raised a litter I'm afraid I would keep them all.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
If I ever raised a litter I'm afraid I would keep them all. 
