I am a first time poster and I am in the same situation. I had 2 affairs w/ 2 separate men within our 3 yr. marriage. My H found out about both of them. The first one came just 7 mos. after we were married and the last one was just 2 mos. ago. They both only lasted about 2 weeks and then I realized I shouldn't be doing this. I know there are no excuses for cheating but the only conclusion i could come to as to why i did it was b/c my H was gone all the time working in different states and i was at home alone w/our kid and i didn't live anywhere near any of my family. And when he did come home from work all he did was sit on the couch and watch tv and was never really intimite w/me. After this last affair my husband said he wanted to be separated from me for awhile. Then for 2 weeks or so he said that once i realized how much he loved me, he would drop everything and come back to me. Then within a matter of 4 days he is stating he wants to get a divorce and that he would die first b4 he ever came back to me. I just don't know what to do. Since being separated, I have discovered a greater love for my husband and its unbearable being w/out him. But when i try to tell him how i feel, he either hangs up on me or he says i need to deal w/it and get a life. Thanx for letting me vent.
