Wow thanks thats the first positive thing I have felt in such a long time. I am so happy if my experience can help someone else to NOT go th affair route. If you read my post on this site with all the details you will maybe see how I came to the place in my life where i just felt so bad about stuff but didn't know how to fix it, i just made bad choices.I hurt my H terribly,even though we married young and we BOTH did not have the skills to have a healthy marriage, and even though everyone tells me that I am NOT that person from 21 years ago, or from high school for that matter, that this is something bad that happens to people, even good ones, it still racks me with guilt. I would give ANYTHING to take it back. But so many have told me that they knew my H then too, and they could see why I felt like I did then.And that he did chose to get revenge on me, seven years later. It does not excuse it, and I should have told the truth. Now I may lose a 28 year marrage. I always pictured us growing old together.My affair was so short Febrific4H,but so damaging. If you read my long long post you will see what H is up to now, thats where I am having my problem. Is he using my past to feed his MLC? Or is he really that torn up that he needs these women to feed his ego. I am sooooo happy you ended your affair. NOTHING good ever comes of it except mabe that we learn more abput ourselves and what not to do, that we get a seconf chance to renew what once was good. I did have so many good times to equal the bad. Some of my friends say i am a emotional abuse victim, that he likes keping me down and guilty. They say I should let him go. I cry EVERY day. I don't know what to do either, let him go through this and find out that these women are only after him for what he can do for them, or is he really that devistated and is pushing me towards divorce?
