I am new here and posted in the MLC section, but read your post and had to reply- I had a very brief A when I was 25 I felt unappreciated, and controlled by my H. NO EXCUSE IS GOOD ENOUGH to EVER have an affair, but it happened. It was short -2 months, and although my H suspected I denied denied denied. 21 years later I finally told the truth when he asked me becuse I felt we had been through so much, including HIS affair seven years after mine happened.But his lasted a year. I was hesitant but relieved to tell the details, but my H used it against me as an excuse to leave. I think he is in MLC and just used this as an excuse, cause he DID have an affair too way back when, but says he was too destroyed by my details and has to work his anger out. I found out he is working his anger out by helping 2 women at work with their "problems". Ann Landers used to say confession may be good for the soul but its hell on your marriage. If you can possibly end the affair right now-do it and don't look back. What ever fantasies or excitement you need to get, get it from your husband. In this day and age its too dangerous to be out there messing around. I deeply regret my affair,however short, the guy was a predator and used me. You have a husband and a family. My husband recently moved out. We were married about 28 years. I do still love,desire him and want him back. I am here because I want to do it the smart way and make sure he can't use my past aginst me anymore and that we can build a relationship that doesn't need anger, revenge or affairs or any outside excitement.. My advice to you is END IT NOW, work on your marriage, you and your hubby have the combinations to each others "safes". Keep them to yourselves, and treasure the stuff you keep in there. Get DB-ing now. Forgive yourself ( I know its hard, I didn't for 20 years) and try to go out of your way to do one small nice thing for your husband every day. Do one nice thing for yourself too. Say I love you EVERY day. Hugs for no reason. Do not put yourself in situatuions where you may stray. Good luck, and i'll be watching for your progress.
