afools, Thanks for the encouragement! I agree that acting on the feelings is what will get me in trouble with my H. But I don't agree that the thinking is harmless. If I hadn't let my mind dwell on another man than I don't believe I would have had an A with them. After thinking over and over again what it would be like to be with them, eventually doing seems no worse than thinking. At least this is how it happened with me. I think the reason I had the 2 A was/is because of the excitement factor, and also a desire factor. I am a HDW, and feel very taken for granted by my H. I used to see a gleam in his eyes when we were first married, but that has long past. I just don't know how to get that back. I will work on making things more exciting for him...and maybe that will happen if I concentrate on myself being more excited by him.
