I won't beat you up and hope no one else does. Let the one without sin cast the first stone. This is coming from my persective as a man and a fool. If you want to stay married drop the OM right away. DON'T EVER fess up unless caught it will be so much harder to get things on the right track. Try and figure out why you had your affairs. Then work on fixing that, if it's simply the added excitiment then work with your H to make things more exciting with him. Don't beat yourself up for thinking or being attracted to others than your H. I have F who was married 12 years and was always faithfull even tho he was acccused regular of not being faithfull and being attracted to others, but he was faithfull. It's acting on those feelings not feeling them that gets us in trouble. I hope this helps and good luck.
