Somewhere there has to be a light at the end of this tunnel...
I talked with H about when we are going to tell the kids about the pending D. I would like to do it when they are all together, which leaves either this week or the the first couple of weeks in Aug. H asked if we couldn't wait until August.
I asked him what he was planning on telling the kids....and of course it is only his version of the story. He will tell them he hasn't been happy since 1991, that he kept telling me he wasn't happy but I wouldn't do anything about it, that I didn't support him in his career, that we have decided to get a D, blah, blah, blah. His reality and mine are so different. First, I didn't have a clue anything was wrong until he dropped the bomb in 2002, which also means I never heard that he was unhappy. As far as supporting his career.....I get no credit for being a darn good Marine wife and supporting him up the ying-yang. That part of it just infuriates me to no end. I can't tell you the number of Marines that have asked me if I had a sister they could marry (they saw what a good wife/mom I was).
First of all I told H I would never say to the kids that "we" have decided to D. H wants this, not I. Secondly, the kids will ask why (they are 15-24) and I think they should know about the affair. It is one thing if there was an affair and it had ended, but H's affair is still continuing after 5 years. Besides, even if I don't say anything to them about the A, they will find out one way or another since the D papers as well as the upcoming tial are open to the public.
H, S15 and I were at a swim meet again today. H was even half way civil most of the time and at one point H was even flirting a little bit. That changed when we got home and one of the kids brought up Clinton and his affair. H turned very cold then and left shortly after supper. I sure hope his calms down soon since we are leaving Fri. for 3 days for a swimmeet for S15.
