Just an update....Ok, what I really need is a shoulder to cry on.
Things have been going Ok for the past few months....a few bumps in the road but for the most part H and I have been spending a lot of time together, have taken several trips out of town with the kids. H has seemed more like the person he used to be....kind, considerate, doing those extra "little" things for me....he is even back to sharing thoughts, ideas, problems, and actually smiling with a twinkle in his eye. There have even been several times of him actually firting with me.
But, the D is still progressing....and is at the point that H had me served with interrogatory questions about MY sex life since we have been married (which is 26+ years), if I consider him to be a proper person to have legal custody of our son, and what my reasons are for counterfiling on charges of adultery, along with several pages of other questions.
I knew when answering the questions on adultery charges and H having legal custody that my answers would tick H off....and they have. But, my L said that I had to be honest and that I could lighten up my answers in court but it would be very difficult to make them harsher. What did H, me not answer the questions??? At this point I have to look out for my kids and myself.
There were also questions on the household budget....and I can almost hear H screaming at the amounts I wrote down. But, I went through the checkbook register for the past 12 months, added the amounts and divided by 12.....and yes, we spend a lot of money.
I can tell already that money is becoming a very big part of this D, and will be a problem in the months to come. H thinks I should accept 42% of his military retirement and that is all I should get. Not to mention that I was a stay-at-home mom (H's wish) for over 20 years while supporting his career. I will not settle for that, and since H is not used to me taking a controversial stand against him, it is really getting his ire up.
I invited H over for pizza and a movie with the kids and I tonight. He accepted the invite with pleasure but was colder than an ice-cube to me while he was here. We will spend several hours in the car tomorrow and Sunday as well as most of those days together since S15 has a swimmeet......but I am not looking forward to this at all.
In a way I just want the D over so I can start to move on with my life, but things have been so well the past few months that I was almost getting some hope that this M could be saved. However, someone mentioned to me that maybe H was being so "nice" to me so that I would give a lot more in the D settlement.
