Mellanie & Raindeer....thanks for checking in on me. Although I have read the bb on a regular basis I stopped posting a couple of months ago when I caught H snooping on my computer.
H let himself into MY house, was in MY office, on MY computer, reading MY files.....the bb was opened along with a couple of my email accounts. I had been in the living room taking a nap and thought I heard a noise....and found H at my computer. I have no idea how long he had been on it or exactly what he read. I do know that my laptop is MINE and I even have it password protected.....so who knows what H found out. It just pointed out to me how low he had sunk. Why is he snooping on me....I have never given him a reason to do so?
Anyhow, H hasn't mentioned the bb to me so maybe he didn't figure out who I was.......in case he did I will just have to be careful with any details I post.
The D is still in progress and H now has the interrogatories on both his financial and sex life that he needs to complete this week. I am just really curious to see whether he tells the truth on those or not. I really am hoping that H doesn't hang himself to high.
I have dropped the rope the best I can. The only time I call or email H is when there is something with the kids that absolutely cannot wait. If it is not a matter of life/death I don't contact him. And, if I am at one of the phones with caller ID I don't answer the phone if it is him. However, with that said, it is very rare for H to call the house and talk to one of the kids without then asking to speak to me.
I try to be very pleasant, upbeat and positive....I do feel good about myself.
H still seems to want contact with me. We had an appointment to finish our taxes yesterday. H was headed back to town to and was going to be late so I told him I could just drive there myself (5 minutes away). But, H said he would stop be to pick me up, which made us even later. Then last night S15 had gotten the 3 of us tickets to a dinner-theater so after the taxes H came back to my house to get dressed since he still has his good clothes here. He even made a point of coordinating his clothes to what I was wearing. After the dinner, he drove us back to the house and just came in, asked if I wanted a drink and fixed drinks for both of us. In the meantime our son had gone to the familyroom to play games, so H and I spent a few hours chit-chatting and watching tv. It sure doesn't sound like someone that is trying to get away from me.
This morning H and I were supposed to meet at the church for a lunch the youth was serving. H called me a few minutes before I was leaving and said he would be by to pick me up....I said OK. We had a nice lunch then H drove me home. This is where I am confused. We pulled into the driveway and H shut off the car. I just froze because I didn't know what he was doing.....we had just talked about no one being home but me and me having the house to myself. H even had his hand on the car door handle like he was going to come into the house with me. I thanked him for the lunch, told him I would see him later, and kind of bolted from the car. H didn't even turn the car on until I was in the house. I actually felt like a scared rabbit. Should I have let him come in, or even invited him in?
