Mellanie, How do I feel about him now? I have more respect and love for him that I did prior to this whole "alien abduction" thing. I truly do.
You can't expect to gain your respect for him right away. It's something he has to earn and, if he wants to be respected by you again, he will be willing to do what it takes to earn that from you.
Respect yourself first! That is most important. I mean, TRULY respect yourself and know that you deserve more than this.
Remember to ask yourself the question before you bring up anything to him about his lies, "will this bring us closer". You have to know that if you bring these things up now, he will be on the defensive. There WILL be a time and a place to bring them up later. Believe me! A time when you know deep down that the outcome will be better.
Hang in there! Be proud of yourself for how far you've come and reward yourself! You probably have a long road ahead of you and you do have the strength to do this. After all, you are a military spouse aren't you!? You have already been through so much. This is just another hiccup. A big hiccup but, you will survive.
