Lettie, Thanks for the words of advice since I hadn't thought of things from that angle. When I signed the adultery charges my L knew we were going away for the weekend together and didn't give me any words of warning. I guess I had better call him before we leave this weekend.

Mellanie, H has not talked to anyone about his A so there is no one for me to ask whether she is D or not. I just don't want ow's H to get screwed if I can help it. As to the Alienation of Affection, there was actually a lawsuit in my state not very long ago. The LBS won but I think she was only awarded $1. What a slap in the face!! I have already searched the internet for info on D in Georgia but have not gotten very far. If all else fails I can always pay for a background search.....

Raindeer, thanks for your continued support!


On another note, H broke a 3 day silence tonight and called when he knew S15 would be at swim practice. I almost didn't answer the phone, but was glad I did since we had a pleasant conversation. H called to tell me that he has already booked motel rooms for 3 weekends this coming month so we can attend S15's swim meets. (Now, this is from a guy who is usually booking rooms the day we need them.) Now, since I like planning in advance and had already booked rooms, I will cancel my reservations and let H pay.

I told H about the cop coming over last night and that I am now locking the doors at all times. H said that he didn't have a key to the house and would like one. I did not commit to giving him a key, and right now I don't feel obligated to giving him one. Later in the conversation H said that he was calling it quits at work since it was 9 pm and he hadn't had supper yet. I sympathized with him on being hungry and said that I had fixed homemade beef stew for S15 and myself and had that as well as a bunch of other leftovers in the fridge. I told him that I missed him coming home for lunch since that was when the leftovers would get eaten up. H mentioned he would love to come for lunches but hadn't been since he didn't want to be eating my food in case I had plans for it. We talked a little longer and he mentioned again about coming for lunches but then threw in the fact that he couldn't since he did't have a key to the house....I just laughed and changed the subject.

I am really struggling with deciding what I want. I KNOW I want my M, but I also know that I will not tolerate an ow. So, I continue to DB with the hopes that H will cease communication with ow (right now it is strictly phone calls) and come home someday, while at the same time going forward with the D. So, for the time being, I am still as much of a wife and friend as H will allow. There are just some things I know with certainty and one of those is that if the D is ever finalized I will no longer be a friend to H and that is one thing that H just does not understand. But then again, there are many things that I don't understand either....

Wishing