I did send a reply to you few days ago. But it was not posted for some reasons.
I can feel your pain right now. Still hoping to save the M but also disappointed with what your H did. It is a very difficult decision. My W made the decision. I just accepted and move on with my life. I have more peace now. Not dwelling and hoping that she stays and comes back. The holidays was good for me and the kids. My S hasn't seen his mum for 5 weeks and did not seem to miss her. He seems to be happy now. I hope time will heal his wound.
I am moving forward with my life. I just don't have any more hope that our M will be saved. So I plan my future myself. I am sure I will find a new partner again some times. At the moment my priority is my kids' wellbeing.
