Wishing, I agree with Mellanie...and I have to tell you, cake-eaters constantly act like this. Again, it is up to you, but I think you have decided to do what you need to, and that is have H in you life, even though he is seeing ow. You are sharing him...and that is ok if you can be happy and live your own life too, because you really need to, just as he is. You do what is right for you...but just be prepared to deal with him, as I said, trying to keep two women happy. I just hate to see you when he doesn't call for several days and make up your mind you are filing on adultry when you are at your lowest. Some of these men can do this forever...but I hope for you that he sees the light and wants the M. Just protect yourself for the long haul.