Mel....I enjoy your outlook on life...your responses often make me smile...
Ellen...I have been watching your story unfold and have also found a lot of similarities....I think a book on MLC and what signs to watch out for should be a must read for every newlywed; maybe it would help to avert some of the pain we are going through.
It has been several months now since I quit calling H about anything that wasn't a crisis. And, for the last month, I have only initiated 2 communications with H and those were both through email. If H wants to talk/see me then he has to take the initiative.
H called earlier this evening to see if I had heard anything from D18 since she was supposed to fly in today and her boyfriend was picking her up at the airport. It was a fairly short conversation since I was headed out for a walk. Then, shortly after 10 H called again to see if I had caught something on the news..which I had. I then told him that D18 and boyfriend had gotten here. H made some comment about him wanting to welcome her home.....but I didn't take the bait. We chatted for a couple more minutes then H asked if it would be OK if he came over to watch Sat. Night Live with me and make some popcorn for us all. I told him I would like that very much.
So, H came over, got to see D18 for a little while, I fixed us drinks and we watched tv. At one point we were talking and H had me feel his hands to see if they seemed dry to me. Another time I was stretching and H reaches over to tickle me.......both behaviors which almost seemed like a set up to me. I just let them both go right by me.
H asked if I had plans on going to church tomorrow. Since I almost always go, along with the kids, I had already talked to them about going to the early service. H asked if it would be OK if he came along. On one hand I had really wanted to go with just the kids and I....almost like a trial run for me of starting to do stuff by myself that used to me a couple thing. But, I told H it was up to him....and he said he would really like to go...so he will be here to pick us up. He asked about taking us out for breakfast after church but S15 already has plans to make us omelettes.
As H was leaving he kept staring at me with a questioning look...even commenting about it being so late and he had to drive to his place and take a shower yet tonight. I only agreed with him. H hadn't been gone 5 minutes and he was back....it dawned on him that he didn't have any clothes for church at his place so he got some. Once again he left with a questioning look on his face.
I just don't know what he wants from me. But, I do know there is continued contact with ow and I will never share...
