It is a very complicated situation you are in. You have to know what is the best for you. I wanted my W to let go the om but she did not want to. So I had no choice than to let her go. She can't have both of us. Her heart is also not with the family. ALthough I was OK in the first 2 months. I felt lost sometimes in the last few weeks. I suppose it is part of the process of healing. I will be OK.