Lettie, your support and encouragement mean a lot. I am amazed that you write almost exactly what I am thinking and helps me reaffirm that I am not whacko in not tolerating an ow. I'd rather go through the pain of D than live with the pain and humiliation of ow.
H has shown no remorse for his A. His most telling statement when I first confronted him was "I never meant for you to find out". It wasn't "I'm sorry", or "I was wrong". So much for being a Marine Corps officer and upholding truth and integrity.
I am amazed at the peace I feel and the sense of relief on getting things started to end 3 years of limbo. (Of course H is not back in town til tomorrow night so that helps. )
BIL is spending the week at my house but I will let H tell him of the separation when he gets back. In the meantime, I am enjoying the fruit of 26 years of friendship with BIL. We were even talking tonight that even though we both have several siblings, we consider ourselves to be true brother and sister. I sure hope that friendship survives the war ahead.
S15 was telling BIL of the tricks he plays on the girls on his swim team. At one point in the conversation BIL said to son that some day the girls would get revenge. That "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned". I couldn't help but comment that that was more true than he realized.
I truely did forgive H his first A and was more than willing to forge ahead and repair our M. But, never once in 3 years did I ever feel that H showed remorse or a willing to work on mending out M. I, like many others here, just want a M where I am loved, cherished and respected. I don't think that is asking too much.
Lettie....I have looked for a current thread but can't find one for you. But, I have read many of your posts to others and feel that you are speaking many of the thoughts that I am thinking. Thanks for sharing and encouraging.
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