I agree with Raindeer, wishing...everyone has their own limits and boundry setting for these sitches. Do what is best for you. I think that when it just gets too hard and we feel deep down inside that we are hurting ourselves more than we are working to regain our R, then it is time to change things. I know I almost got a stomach ulcer by allowing things to go too far and ignoring signs of an affair, so for me, I know what my limits are, and I could never allow it to affect my health. At least you know you did everything in your power to save your M and allow H to see what he wanted with his life. I think the final straw was your H not coming forth with the truth when confronted. So you do what is right for you now, whatever that may be.
