wishing, please do not feel like a jerk...you are just a compassionate person and hate to "lay the law down", but look how he has chosen to treat you. I think that it is cruel to keep coming home, knowing he has OW also. How another person can keep stringing another along is beyond me, and I must tell you, it is for very selfish reasons. My counselor told me that many years ago...coming and going isn't for you, and you cannot be his safety net forever. Let him live with his choices...I have read more threads about this kind of thing happening, and I have to say, I know of none that go on for this long to work out. Raindeer is a good example of this, and he knew he could not carry on like this forever. It is just too painful. If someone realizes what they have done, shows remorse, and works diligently to make things work, then there is a chance...and this way is even hard, but worth fighting for. I believe in second chances with my whole heart...but if their heart isn't in it, nothing changes. I think that your H thought you were going to give in as always...you have shown him that you want your life back and start to heal. I personally think that the only way you will even begin to heal is when a gigantic step in the right direction. Sometimes the hardest things we face in life are actually the things that can change our life.
