I came home from work and just knew that H would have at least packed a bag since I was very clear on Sat. night that I wanted him out. But, no..... For that matter, H even called at supper time and told S15 that he would be a few minutes late getting home to eat. So, son set a place setting for H.
H came into the house in a good mood and actually was nice to be around. After eating, H helped clear the table and do the dishes. When we were done with that I was in the basement getting a room ready for BIL who is coming Wed.
H came down to the basement and told me he was headed back into the office but he wanted to make sure I knew what his schedule was for the coming week. He was so nice about it, especially since he hasn't been that open with his schedule for months, or is that years??
I listened to H and then asked him what he schedule was for leaving, as in moving out. H said he would be out of the house for the rest of the week on a business trip. I told him "no", I wanted him out tonight. H really hemmed and hawed and it finally came out that he had no intention of leaving until maybe the end of next week. I told him no, I wanted him out tonight. He tried to throw all these roadblocks up as to why that wasn't possible, but I had solutions for everything.
We then talked a little about finances with H having just gone over our checkbook with a fine tooth comb. He found nothing wrong, just that we go through more $ than he thinks we should.
Ya know, I almost feel like a jerk for insisting H leave, but I am just not going to be taken for a doormat anymore. H CANNOT throw me out little tidbits of kindness and expect be to bow to his wishes. Finding out about his continued A has given me a backbone, and I am not bending.
I am hurt and I am angry, but I also feel pity for H. There is alot of talk about forgiveness, and I forgave H a long time ago for what he has done. But, forgiveness does not letting H walk all over me.
A lot more went into the conversation so will post more later.
For now, I DID IT!!! H is out and I can finally start on my journey of healing (although I dread the pain I know is coming).
