When H and S14 got home from deer hunting we all went out and got a Christmas tree and got it put in its stand. It smells sooooo goood. Had a nice time getting the tree and a relaxing evening afterwards.

Shortly before heading to bed I told H I had one question for him......when the last time was he had any contact with ow. H must have sat ther mulling over the answer for at least 5 minutes, but I didn't say a word, just let him sit and stew. He finally said he wasn't talking about it. I then asked him when the last time he saw her was and again that relpy that he wasn't talking about it. Then I asked if he had actually broken it off 2 years ago like he had said several time, but still no answer.

At that point, I let all DBing out of my head and asked H to go down to his office because I wanted all of his financial records so he didn't "cook" the books. While there I also asked for the the phone records. H was very unwilling for me to copy them, but I did. (I know there is no direct evidence on there, but still a number I can use.)

H has had the D papers for over a year now and I told him if he would get the kids ages straight I would sign them and let him do whatever he has to do. (I believe ow has moved close by and is not the 2000 miles away she was.) However, I asked him for the name of ow because it will be on the adultry charges I will counter file with. H has never, in 4 1/2 years, let on who she is, but I do know.

It was about midnight when we got back so I told H he could stay the night since he and S15 are going deer hunting at 5a.m., but it was the last night. H got kind of angry at that and asked why he was the one to leave. I simply told him it was because he has been spending hundreds of dollars a month on a trailer that he might as well start using.

Things didn't go quite like I had planned tonight; I was floored when H would not answer any question. But, I was very calm through the events and didn't let H browbeat me like he does so often.

I know I have pushed H into moving out, but he has known for the last 2 years that I will not share him with ow.

H is now blaming me for stalling the D. Although I have 16 month old D papers in hand, I have not been served with them nor do they have the kids' correct ages. I told H he was the one stalling the D since he could have had it anytime the past 4 1/2 years of his A if he would have told about the A.

I guess I need an appointment with the L this next week. But, I have been DBing for almost 3 years now and it is going nowhere. I have honestly tried and feel that I have given as much as I possibly can to save this M.

I am more sad than anything now, but I am sure the pain will come....

Wishing