Kelli, you are right. I am in the process of rebuilding, but, unfortunately H really isn't included.
Things are doing nothing but slowly going downhill. After being at least civil for a couple of weeks, H is now being nasty again. When he gets nasty like this it is almost always because he is hiding something. I just haven't figured out what he is hiding.
I am at a point now that I avoid H as much as is civil to do so since I don't like to be around him when he is acting this way.
Actually, for the past couple of months I have come home from work each night fully expecting H to have moved out during the day. So far, no such luck. I am not exactly sure what he is waiting on though. Several weeks back I told H I could not stand him moving things out little by little, that he needed to take it all in one swoop. During that same conversation I also told H that what I wanted was for him to give this M until Christmas, see a MC, and as a side note, I wanted sex. Somehow I am getting the feeling that all he heard was that I wanted him to wait until Christmas til he moved out. (I wish he would hurry up and leave and get this process rolling).
As for me, I am doing OK otherwise. I just got back from a trip to see all 4 of my kids. Two of them went with me and we met up with the other 2. This trip had been planned since last Aug. and H was invited along. However, he chose to go deer hunting with friends instead. For me, that was a good decision on his part. Partly because I had a wonderful time and secondly, the kids got to see just where H's priorities are.
S15 went with me and we picked D22 up a couple hours later. We then headed to Illinois where D23 and her fiancee met us for a day/night. (H and I hadn't seen her in a year so it was great to be with her). We then headed on out to Notre Dame to see D18...and were even able to get tickets to the football game. That was a blast! It was a great trip and I got to spend so much quality time with the kids.
One thing I have noticed since I have been back is that H is asking questions to see what I did with the kids. I have volunteered very little information but will tell him if he asks. I decided a while ago that I am no longer a mediator between H and the kids.
