I can understand your frustration about your H's indecisiveness. But if the A is truly over, I think it is worthwhile to continue your DBing. He may be still confused with what he wants.
In my W case, she does not want to let go the om. So there is no alternative than to S. I don't want to get hurt again and again.
My D was very upset when she first knew that my W was having A. But somehow my W managed to convince her that she loves the om deeply and asked my D to accept her decision. Now it seems that my D has accepted the fact of her A. My S is the one who is still very upset. He did not react badly when he first found out about her A 2 years ago. Maybe he was too young (13) at that time and did not understand the implications.
