Just some thoughts. I have struggled with W all my life (53 yrs young). My W is 105 lbs never gains W and is a great cook. At one point when i got 40 lbs. overweight my W said "you need to loose some weight Bub". I got mad,hurt, etc. especially since half the time she's trying to overfeed me.
Later on i realized she was right but not very supportive of me. I got up one day looked in the mirror and said i'm tired of looking at you like this marc, this has got to change.
I embarked on a 4 yr program to look like I did when i was 25 (at least in terms of muscle and fat). I'm not there yet but i'm almost to a 31 belt size.
I realized two things and they are that to truly love myself i have to accept all the good and bad things about me and even love them. But i'm determined not to let the bad things determine what i do, but the good things.
Once i realized this, then i could look at the issue in terms of extra weight and reduced S pleasure,difficulty moving , health issues, etc.
you deserve to love yourself; for kids grow up and move away, H die or leave, but even if you live alone and homeless under a bridge one person will still love you unconditionally: you.
I think you need to give your H tough love; if he says something mean try not to take it personally but call him on it. if he won't stop go to another room in the house. If you want to excercise, work up a plan and tell him as your H you expect him to support you (babysitting,cooking for kids,etc). If he says he doesn't know how, tell him he's an adult and you'll happy to teach him how.
I know i've talked a lot i tend to be wordy and my wife says i'm preachy so i hope i didn't offend you.
