Quote: I think it's part of the healing process to have past angers and resentments flare up as you progress. Remember that part of these feelings about H has to do with you...anger and resentment at yourself for being allowed to be treated this way.
Once again, you highlight an important area of sexuality--- superficial appearance and the aging process. I believe how WE handle these issues will affect our H's perspectives.
It is true that I have felt some anger and resentment at myself for allowing myself to be treated that way, but then I remember that there were children involved. The fact that I was the mother of young children put me at an unfair disadvantage because of their dependency on me. Therefore, he should have treated me with respect as long as that was the situation. I suppose I feel a lack of respect for him because he violated this code of conduct.
I got a positive spin in the superficial signs of aging department the other day. I went to a local history museum with my MIL who is quite wrinkled and the equally wrinkled curator of the museum delayed our research for quite a while as he flirted shamelessly with my MIL.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
