Quote: I know that this is true because this is what my H has tried to convey. It just doesn't make sense in some ways because 2/3 of all adult Americans are overweight. How can a problem shared by the majority of your peers be a personal indication of disrespect?
Ok, I haven't posted here much, and hope I'm not going to offend anyone, but...
(and I am 10 pounds overweight, so what gives ME the right to say this--I deserve it if someone thrashes me)
I have a HUGE disdain for overweight people. Wrinkles, age spots, etc, are things you cannot control, and they are endearing. I look at my H's graying hair, and I think how blessed I am that I will "see him through this life". Yeah, we'll have all the wrinkles and all, and we'll have made it!
People who are overweight--I think of them as having selfish, self-indulgent personalities. I do often think to myself, don't they have any self-respect? Don't they care about themselves? their spouses? their kids? who have the burden of having to deal with all the problems of an overweight person?
They have the ability to control this (most of them do--I KNOW there are SOME with the THYROID problems). But if we are all honest here, 2/3 of our "peers" don't have to be overweight.
Now, I'm not nearly so "hard" on people that are only 10-20 pounds overweight (hey, like me!) But I might be if I worked really hard, gave up the Hagan Daz and the Krispy Cremes, and made the effort to get rid of it.
Your H is naturally thin, so heck, I may look like an obese whale to him.
I would find him to be totally unfair if you were overweight when he met and married you. But I don't think that is the case.
