Paul,
I'm not Hairy (nor am I hairy, har de har) but I will throw my 2 cents in anyway.
Spooning, to us, is mostly just a snuggle position. I always try to get my goods smack dab against his (so much for being mysterious once in a while, eh!) and welcome anything that happens from there. Most of the time it is just more snuggling and that is ok with me. I love the feeling of his body close to mine and that is why I encourage it. That is why he does it also.

There ARE times when he is wanting sex and will place his hard member there in order to let me know and that's fine with me too. Mainly, though, it is just to snuggle or for the intimacy of having our squeezy bits together, though not necessarily leading to sex.

Naturally, snuggling like this leads to sex. I love rear entry sex so I would not want to turn around facing him. He will usually reach his hand in between my legs and stimulate me that way, or else I do it myself.

Anyway, that's what snuggling looks like in the Honey house.
Now the spooning from me-to-him (me behind him) is a little more complicated from a "I'm snuggling but really trying to get you aroused" standpoint, LOL. There are no squeezy bits coming into contact with each other, but I'm sure you are not surprised to learn that with my persistence I have found ways to manage anyhow.