Dear HD,

Please permit me to ask some silly naive questions. I've heard about people spooning. I was taken aback by Honeypot's description of her H spooning her buck naked, and not having intercourse. Couldn't the woman just turn around? Do you spoon? If so, what do you think about it and what does your W think about it? I personally can't understand why my W would allow me to have pleasure behind her and her not want some of the action

This morning was interesting, too. I'm an early riser and so I got up, showered and crawled into the family bed and sidled up against W. She didn't push me away as she normally does at night. I got her to actually face me so I could plant a hundred kisses where they belong. She really started to warm up, until the kids woke up . The rest of the morning I feel that there was excitement between us. Of course, now she's gone for 3 days .

Here's what I think: During the day, she doesn't sit around and think about sex and arousal, except to be ticked off that I think about it too much. At night, she really is tired. But in the morning, there is a possibility. Not that she would ever TELL ME THAT. In fact, I think a few years ago, she gave up on telling me what she wanted. I now have to go and figure it out by myself. Because when she told me, I WOULDN'T LISTEN, or I'd forget.

Learning by discovery stays learned.

Paul, soon to be Pu$$y-whipped!