Why would anyone be powerless over a lack of sexual appetite?

Many people, on these forums and off, have regained their sex drive by keeping sex in their minds and being open to the idea, as well as (the simplest way of all, imo) considering themselves sexy and concentrating on that thought, rather than lack of physical urges.

How would admitting powerlessness help that person move FORWARD and become a red hot lover?

From the stories I've read, it appears that the person feeling empowered over their sexuality is the thing that led to real success.