Thanks for the responses. I was under the impression that seeing a counsellor might cause things like life insurance to be harder to get or more expensive.
Regarding "Sexual Anerexia" the book Hairdog mentioned a few wekes ago, I have read the first few chapters. Parts of it sound like it was written by a college student who for the first time was told by a professor that it is OK to blame your woes on the big bad society. But I read further and, if anything, the characteristic traits of a sexual anorexic describe me better than they describe my W. Dysfunctional family, unresolved religious issues, a desire to be a perfetionist and to serve others, an idea that "no one would want me." The author also claims that sexual anorexics have a lot in common with sexual addicts, namely those who cannot control their sexual appetites. It is apparently not uncommon for a person to vascillate between the two extemes, motivated by sexual self-hatred.
Anyway, back at the ranch, W and I have spoken little since last week's episode (I hinted I might not be coming home that night.) I got some sympathy but it's wearing off. I feel less dependent on her these past few days. Halloween was a little tricky, though.
