M&K's dad wrote <<I don't want it to be a public record that I am seeing what amount to a shrink>>
M&K's dad, so what is wrong with seeing a shrink. You do not have a deep dark secret, are not like typhoid Mary, and the problem you have is not contagious. The way I see it, You have something like a computer problem, IE one program miss communicates or does not communicate with another program.
In my books, if you have trouble repairing something and do not talk to an expert, then you might not want anyone to know when things really get screwed up. Use your insurance for what is worth. You paid for the service (insurance is a form of pre payment) so use it/insurance. Pay the deductable and be happy with that.
I used to work with deliquent boys that needed a lot of counselling. No one ever said amything negative about any of the boys getting counselling. In fact almost all of the workers in the program made positive comments about the person / family getting counselling.
<<I don't want it to be a public record>> Hay! If you see a "SHRINK" Will it be printed in the newspaper? NO WAY. Last I heard medical records are private, between you the C and the insurance company.
I work for myself. Cash is nice, insurance / company payments received in a month are good too. The payments that take 3 months are starting to get anoying.
Paul, look at counselling as "YOU" hireing a professional personal advisor. Too many people seem to merge their attitude about counselling with the general attitude of Psychic Readers like TV's "Miss Cleo's.
http://www.m-w.com/dictionary.htm Variant(s): or counselling Function: noun: professional guidance of the individual by utilizing psychological methods especially in collecting case history data, using various techniques of the personal interview, and testing interests and aptitudes.
Congrats on finding <<Japanese marriage counsellor>> you did what you needed to do. Just remember there are good and poor regular marriage counsellors. This applies to the one you found. Hopefully you will gain some insight to the way you and your W relate to each other.
OG Lou Been to counsellors. Some help you do better, some help you feel better, and some open your eyes to this is how some people will always act. They will not change. Ouch!
