Paul- You were ready to spend the night in a hotel. The non-enforceable part of that two-part dilemma is only when you're not willing to put your money where your mouth is. When you mentioned about kicking and beating in the bed, it sounds like your situation is even worse than mine. I'm not trying to bait you, or even challenge you. I'm just trying to help you think...and I'm trying to help myself, too, as I can see two situations with similarities and differences.
I used to think Asian women were hot, but now, since hearing about your W, I can't help but look at them and see a continent of sexually-repressed uh...flight attendants. (Almost said stewardesses).