It's okay! So, what brings you to these hallowed halls?
In our case, NOP (HD spouse) led the way and I (LD spouse) wandered in later (much to his initial dismay) . We've gone from near relational death through to a mucho better relationship. It was not zero to 60 in X number of seconds, but after several months, a gazillion arguments and quite a few difficult moments, we're in a good place.