I don't think anyone enjoys going back to the principles again and again, as you mentioned. But if we want change what choice do we have?
I know that sometimes we all just get fed up and vent! We're human. I just see a lot of regular negativity and you know it takes two to tango!
That's what DB is about, from what I can see. We all fix ourselves and stop blaming the spouse. That doesn't mean that what they are doing is ok. It just means that we work on what we have control over...ourselves.
One of the things my DB coach said was to NOT be bringing up what you are unhappy about in the relationship. That will KILL any passion that may still be there! Lots of these things are on the site and said way better than I could say.
I just see threads with no one speaking up about DB principles that will help and bring solutions. I suppose that is what I was trying to say. Being a friend is both understanding and empathizing, but also encouraging them to do something that will bring POSITIVIE change.
I know this is not my thread and I apologize...but I don't know where or how to start another one on this subject. Please forgive me.
