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I think I would have blasted her if she were my spouse.




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We tiptoe, we walk on eggshells, we come up with elaborate plans to get them to desire us...





Hello again Paul. I'm not sure if you're getting the best advice or maybe people who know your sitch better are venting their spleen. Making your W the bad guy won't get you any closer to a workable solution, it only makes things worse. You've read all the DB books, right? Because you say you used to fly in a rage but now you are doing your best to keep your cool. If you get positive results it will be from keeping your cool not from being frustrated and raging at W.


I think W is simply using the kids as a fence between you and intimacy and using her culture as an excuse. But I don't know much about the Japanese culture either, just how women can use any excuse to avoid sex when for some unknown reason they just don't want to go to the trouble.