Quote: And yet when I asked her to sleep with me, she said, "We just slept together the other day."
"I know we did, sweetie, and my goal is that we sleep together every night. I'm sorry that we've drifted apart in some ways over the years, but you're the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. Because I love you and want to be close to you and that includes snuggling up together under the covers. I'll work with you over the next 30 days to help the kids get accustomed to sleeping on their own."
What do the kids do when she's gone overseas?
I know how stilted things get when your relationship has become bent or broken. All the little sensitive prickly feelers are out just waiting to be bruised by our spouse.
But pushing past that and on to what it is you want is a good thing. (insert imprisoned Martha Stewart TM here).
"All you think about is sex!" The response is not "No, I don't!". The true response is "It's true that I think about it a great deal of the time. Specifically, I think a lot about sex with you, my wife/husband. Sex is a part of an adult, loving, marital relationship and I want to recapture (or establish) that part of our relationship."
At some point, you (rhetorical you) have to stop *denying or downplaying* what you want.
