I used to fly into a rage when I heard these type of things, but I am trying to hold onto myself and keep my cool, as much as it hurts.
The issue of what is normal in Japan has caused me some grief. There have been some people who say that it is normal in some Japanese households for at least mothers to sleep with their children for quite some time. There isn't, however, a Japanese SSM BB or book that I know of, so there is no way to verify how common it is.
I get a lot of grief when I suggest things like dinner out or a romantic weekend. I am told that this isn't part of her culture. Right, like women working as flight attendants attendants or moving abroad was common while she was growing up there. I made a big move to get the kids individual beds recently. We even went to a bed store. My son (4) is ready for it, but D6 got all weepy and W was more than happy to egg her on.
She will occasionally LET me kiss and hug her, but she never reciprocates.
In the court of public opinion wrt this board, I have an open and shut case. Now if only I could convince her that she is under its jurisdiction.
