Ah yes, the holidays. Time for stress about our H and their office OW's. Lost please try to remember that OW is 400 miles away, and she may be spinning the sob story that her D misses H for the sheer guilt of it. He seems to want to re- assure you that nothing is happening with her, so ,In a nicer moment, approach changing that cell number again. Or, is it possible to block her number? I know how you feel, if my H comes back, I know for a fact he gave 2 women in his office his number (and the one calls him/texts ALOT) so I would also be at a loss as to what to do, say hey mister turn in your cell phone???
As for the rings and your trip , maybe H is planning to something with the rings that is special. The "hook-up" comment was not really necessary, but shows that HE may be a little insecure too, after all you did such a great job DB-ing he knows you are perfectly capable of having your own life, and yes, other men DO find you desirable (you said you dated a time or two, right?). Arrange to talk to him on Thanksgiving day, or just a daily call (take turns) can go a long way towards the anxiety of this 5 day seperation. Do not look for grand reassurances during the calls , just what cha up to, miss you this is what we did today here, blah blah blah. Just like when you were DB-ing!!! Also, give him a night to remember before you go!! Not too clingy,or mushy, no tell me you love me and reassuring stuff- just some really hot stuff to curl his toes.Leave him with a strong confident hot woman image-not I am sooo worried about what you are gonna do when I am gone. Too needy, too mushy. Remember thats not YOU anymore. He wouldn't have come back if he really didn't want to Lost!!! This is a test of the trust issue-remember to act as if -and he did tell you where he was gonna be for turkey day, right! You cannot control him or OW and her desperate attempts to get YOUR good man back. He WANTS to stay right where he is. Its only been a week now right? BREATHE!!!!
I also know how you feel about the knots in your belly. I have had 'em now for a whole week and today they are also giving me pressure in my chest. I am gonna call my H today, and test the waters a VERY little. No R talk, just hi how ya doin. Hopefully he did not go to that bike weekend event with someone else. I get so sad thinking of him enjoying thats stuff with someone else. And she better not get the t- shirt that was supposed to be mine either!!!I made myself crazy like this a month ago for an entire weekend when he was supposed to go to Daytona and turned out he never went.All that stress for nothing!! But we had to reserve months in advacnce for this one and it cost $$, so I do't think he'll waste it. Maybe he wn't answer the phone and I can leave a message -then I can be all smiley and breezy. I am only doing this like i said before because he said last time "well haven't heard from you in a while" like it was my turn to call.Plus I already told MIL I was gonna try calling today. I would call EVERY day if I knew it would help, but we all know that is NOT the thing to do.This is gonna be a loooong weekend. Maybe I'll take my bike out if weather stay nice like this. Been a couple of weeks since I rode.Even though all this horrible crap happened, we always had a good time biking. The thought that someone else is riding with him and holding onto him kills me.
Hang on Lost- you're gonna be ok. Just BREATHE- trust, love. Control cannot be an issue right now. That may drive him away. Next time she calls, shake your head, smile, say to him, that you feel bad for her too- but you're with me cause you want to be-and I am so happy for every day we have together now. Then kiss him and go do something else.