Yes, do go places by yourself. Or ask a girl friend to come with. Go have some fun! I wonder if he really is obsessing over what happened years ago or if he pulled that out as an excuse??? And telling you about the women lining up--that sounds like he's looking for a response from you. Don't give him one. And I don't think he isn't thinking about what you are doing and who with. You just don't spend that much of your life with someone and completely put them out of your mind. And if you start going out and having fun and he finds out, he's really going to be thinking about it! Don't let on what you are up to though. Just be vague. yesterday my H told me his mom wanted to know what I was doing on Thanksgiving and I told him I would give her a call. And he said, "well, what ARE you doing on Thanksgiving?" I have been staying with him every night this week. Since he lost his license for 30 days he needs a ride to work in the morning. For the first time I started bringing clothes and stuff to get ready for work in the morning. I used to just go home. I keep wondering what will happen when he doesn't need a ride anymore. But have to just put that out of my mind and wait and see and not be hurt if he doesn't want me there so much. I kinda don't think that will happen anyway. And you are right, in MLC no one else matters but themselves. I think they are easily overloaded with anything else put on top of what they are going through so they just check out for a while. You sound much better than you did when you first got on here so you are obviously making progress. Keep your distance, try to have fun and love yourself!!! Patience!
