I know I am replying to a post from about a month earlier, but what you were saying about your H's feelings for the OW and how it seems like they are these other people, so hit home with me. I too have that situation where all our friends and family just don't know what he is thinking. Granted, no one has met the OW yet. So, my insecurities tell me they will all see and meet her and go, "Oh, now we understand. She is amazing. Of course you would leave your W and kids for her." Pretty stupid I know, but that is where I'm at.
Anyway, since the conversations have progressed from this point, I was wondering how and if you got to the point where you understood your H's choices? My H doesn't tell me anything about what he felt was wrong with our realationship. He just says that he wants to be with, "Someone he loves." Nice!
I feel like if any of this made sense it would be so much easier to move on.
