AMI I am trying so hard to work on it, but he gives only the tinest of info or clues . You are right it may not have anything to do with her, but then why not tell me what its all about?? My H always knew he could tell me anything about his work, now there only certain topics that seemed to be dicussed. I give you alot of credit, 8 months. how the hell do you do it? I am definetly completely not mentioning divorce ever again. He will have to do everthing if he wants it. But he has not said anything more either, so I guess its still limbo land for now. ...its hard to hear the sincerity in his voice and there is no back up of sincere action.