Sportster stop anaylizing you have to for your own sanity believe me. My H told his sister that his mind was made up completely about being with OW and that he and her were very happy and 2 weeks later he is back home with me??? It all goes back to the believe nothing you hear THEY say those things to convince themselves of it as well! H would tell me to proceed with D and that he and OW have a good thing going and he sees a future with her and never saw us getting back together and I know I have told you this before but H told me he said those things not to hurt me but to convince himself that he was doing the right thing even if his heart still was telling him differently he was ignoring it. So your H telling everyone it "looks like its going that way" with the D is him trying to convince himself. And my H's sister used to say the same exact thing to me about how she felt that my H was very confused and honestly didnt know what he wants so take that as a good sign that she feels the same way. I know its been 2 months and probably the longest 2 months of your life believe me I know but your doing the right thing giving him time and space the more space you give him the more he has to think about things and really think about what he is doing. Remember I used to do the same thing dwell on thinking that H was so happy with his new life and is completely happy with his decision to start a new life with OW when in reality he was really understanding what he was doing and that he wasnt really happy and that he wanted to find his way back hime to our family. So I know its hard but keeping going as if do things for yourself and dont constantly wonder is he going to call and definitly dont wait around for that phone to ring either! I will tell you this when H came back I already had plans for the coming weeks i.e. this weekend going to a Jag's game and also going up north for thanksgiving and my HS reunion. I told H about these plans and he seemed a bit shocked that I had made plans like that so far in advance and never told him about it because honestly deep down he thought I wouldnt do anything like that without first making sure he "just might" call me to do something else. So unfortunatly my H is going to be alone for turkey day since he started this new job he cant fly up with me and my parents already had plans set up for them to take S3 while I was away. And he said its ok he will probably be working and will probably go to a friends house for turkey day. I talked to him yesterday and said I was a bit worried that if OW came down to see her family for turkey day and if she tries to contact him or something i.e. bring him some things he left up there. And that if he did see her it might bring back some feelings (after all while he was with her he and I had S 2X's BUT when he became 100% committed to her and their R he wouldnt even touch me or kiss me even if I tried to be seductive) and he said if she did call him he has no desire to see her whats so ever and if it was to get his stuff back he said he would call me and tell me and if I was ok with him getting the stuff from her i.e. meet in a public place to get them. And if I wasnt comfortable with it then he would tell her so and not worry about the stuff. The stuff in reference is 2 pairs of work boots one he had just bought that cost over $100 and I would hate for him to loose those but also fearful of him seeing her again. But he says most likely the way she is i.e. wanted to call the cops on him when he told her he was leaving because she was afraid he would "trash the place" that she trashed the boots and as far as he knew she was spending turkey day at her SIL's housr in NC and not coming to FL at all. Plus going on 2 weeks and not 1 bit of contact from her at all, he even had a few things mailed there (last paycheck stub)that would have gotten there early last week and she never called him about that or mailed it to him. So that is some insecurity that Im dealing with right now about going away for 5 days next week. Mollie did something "different" with H last night something he has kinda always wanted to do but I never did so last night it was actually my idea to try this and he was like uhuh no way really?? I was like yeah afterwards he was like that was awsome and I said well you know what Im learning that I need to be more exporative in my sexuallity not just for you but for me to and guess what I didnt just do this for you I did it for me and know what else I liked it!! And he was like cool (while grinning from ear to ear ) LostInFl
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