I have lost my soulmate to OW

[AMiTHEOW]

Hey Sportster,

As you know what happened to me this week, he seemed really sincere about why he had to break our date, and said "we'll do this again soon, I promise"

You say he seemed really sincere Sport, then you start anyalyzing why he broke the date. I do the same thing, but we have to try not to dig too deep. I know it's hard, my H and I have been sep for 8 months so believe me so I know hwo it is when your mind starts to get the best of you. He may not have suggested an alternate day because it didn't come to mind. Men don't think how we do. That's what YOU would have done, maybe not how he was thinking at the time.

I STILL think that his bad mood was about work cause he did say some very FEW things but then he just generalized. I read into it, yea- its work but I am sure it included HER

Again, you said it was about work, THEN you said it included her. You don't know that. It's that ASSuming thing again. It creeps up on you I know, but try not to let it. It may not have had ANYTHING to do with her at all.

I'm glad you are not saying anything else about divorce either. Let him do EVERYTHING, just like you said. You said it yourself, "but he NEVER said "i want a divorce" point blank." Therefore, he may just be talking because he thinks this is waht he is SUPPOSED to say because of the sitch. Ya know what I mean? He can't give concrete answers because HE doesn't even know what he's feeling. Yes, therefore leaving the door open.

You are doing well. No texts or phone calls, I'm glad to hear that. I'm trying the same thing. However I left H a voicemail yesterday, and he called me. Check my sitch for the convo...

Hope all is well and keep up the good work.

AMI