Hey Lost and AMI! Reading you both this morning and though you both have some issues to deal with, at least you can have the chance to deal with them As you know what happened to me this week, he seemed really sincere about why he had to break our date, and said "we'll do this again soon, I promise" I still think something better may have cropped up but he felt bad about disappointing me. Like I said,before if he really felt bad, he would have suggested an alternate date right away, or at LEAST called or text the next day saying thanks for understanding. But NOOOOO! I am doing good about being the "friend" , no pressure, I do not call or text, letting him be the one to contact. I did mail him some mail he had here, and I made a funny card , and wrote 2 line note that i hoped all was going better.
Ok , he hasn't called or anything since wednesday. I'll probably (hopefully) see him on Sunday, but he hasn't evn called on THAT either. Great -one lousy day a week to DB. So, ok, I am STILL trying to adhere to the principle that ACTING "AS IF" will make him wonder what he is missing. November 18 will be two months since he left. I don't know for sure what he is doing with his life everyday.He doesn't share many details.
I STILL think that his bad mood was about work cause he did say some very FEW things but then he just generalized. I read into it, yea- its work but I am sure it included HER .Maybe HER H showed up, or the two girls found out he has been talking to them both. OR, maybe stuff he has counseled them about work has come back to bite him in the butt. Maybe he doesn't want to tell me about it if it concerns HER because he fears I'll tell him "I told you so". Because in the nbeginning of this when he told me her sitch I said it was dangerous for him to be involved and for her as well if her H is as mean and crazy as he says.

I know, I know LOST, I am over thinkin this thing again. If I am not supposed to believe everything I hear and half of what I see, then maybe he wasn'r really sorry at all that he broke the date??
I will start looking for another home this weekend I guess. Talked to MIL yesterday, she is still supportive.(I did find out that from SIL that he told his mom that there is no one else coming with him for Thanksgiving but he did tell her he went to dinner at her home. I don't know the rest of how that conversation went, I am sure he told her the we're just friends crap too) told her what happened with the 10 minute "date". She says he sounds like he STILL doesn't know what he wants.She keeps telling me to just take it one day at a time. I said I am NEVER going to bring up divorce question again. If he wants it, HE is gonna have to do all the work. He wanted it to be all over by the first of the year. Its already the middle of November!Thats impossible. Maybe all this not talking and not seeing each other stretches it out, HOPEFULLY changing his mind, eh? I don't know if I told you both, but he NEVER said "i want a divorce" point blank. When I asked him after the moving on issue, He said he was thinking about it, when we had that talk Sunday. So I asked well how far are we goin with this, and he said that"yes I am probaby gonna do papers". I found out that he told his Mom that "its looking like its going to go that way (divorce). Looking? If you are sure this is what you want wouldn't you say that??
He seems that he just can't say the words, or is he leaving the door open a crack to change his mind???GUess I am having a bad day girls. I was just really hoping if that we are going to rebuild a relationship, that it would be starting already. Guess two months is like nothing to him, but everyday is hard for me, cause I don't know what he is really planning, At least I haven't cried for a couple of days. I got my DR book in the mail the other day. Read to page 111 last night. So far though all the stuff is baout if they are still living with you. Its hard to DB if they are not even contacting you. I STILL can't figure out if he really wants me to contact him at all. A while back when I was kinda getting on him for not calling when promised, he said i could have called him . too. Am I wrong to just back off and let whatever is happening in his life happen to him and hope he misses me? Again, just a bad day I guess. Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions I'd appreciate 'em.