I can identify with the H being weirded out by the affectionate behavior. When I confronted H and told him he had to break it off with OW, I was a real mess. I knew that one of the things I had been doing wrong before the A was not being attentive to his needs. So as a 180 (I didn't call it that, then) I was hovering over him, being extremely helpful. I really wanted to climb in his pocket and know where he was and what he was doing all the time. I was attempting to use the Light His Fire techniques of prais and admiration and physical touching, among other things.
I probably should have held off on some of that stuff until he got over some of the shock of having to cut off his R with OW. I came across as smothering, and perhaps just a little mental. Heck, I was very mental!
Now, 2 1/2 months later, my admiration and helpfulness are a little less overwhelming to him (I hope). Or maybe it's because I don't give the appearance of being ready to cry at the drop of a hat. Thank you, antidepressants!
I still say, affection is GOOD. Don't stop it if you don't want to stop it! He'll just have to get used to it!
