Sportster Good for you girl! You did a great job the other night!!! But I will say after he left you shouldnt have dwelled on it to much, I know harder said then done. Because you allowed youself to read into something that may not have been there. He could have truly had a bad day and didnt want to ruin the plans you guys had by being in a bad mood and who knows maybe it was a problem with OW and he just had to have time to himself to really think about things and you did the right thing by giving it to him! Keep up the good work!!! ATO Your not hijacking my thread one bit! I will read your thread today. What I can say of what you have told me here is it sounds like your H is "testing the waters" of singlehood and seeing if its what he really wants or not especially since there is more then 1 woman now BUT sportster maybe on to something in the fact that yeah he maybe getting calls from these women BUT is he really calling them back?? And I know what you mean about the divorce bug, my H had 2 buddies that recenetly before we split had split from their wife and long time gf so guess he wanted to check it out to, although 1 of those 2 friends repeatedly would tell H dont do what I did so guess it finally sunk in. I have to take YOUR advice and stop talking about OW with H. It seems I do it everyday and how can I honestly expect him to forget about her when Im always bringing her up and reminding him? Im still feeling kinda insecure and I think its starting to annoy him a bit. I know its only been a week but I find that Im always asking him are you happy? And maybe being a little too affectionate and last night he said he was kinda weirded out by all the affection I have been giving him because I wasnt always like that and he doesnt know how to handle it and he said dont try so hard just be yourself Im not going anywhere. And I told him yeah I have been a bit more affectionate but I said its just because I have missed kissing you hugging you kinda stuff and yeah maybe a bit to of the trying to hard so I have to relax just enjoy things and take things as they come and STOP TALKING ABOUT OW! She is gone and not coming back and as H says its in the past this is now and lets start from here. I know it bothers H to about the 2 guys I went with for a bit and had "relations" with but he says he doesnt think about it that he knows that I am with him now. SO I have to take that same mentality. Good news! H got a job!! It took him 2 days to get one (how funny he was in NC for 2 weeks and not 1 job offer!!) So he is happy about that. The only thing is he doesnt know when he can make an appt with C since this new job is construction they all leave from the job site together and come back at the end of the day and the end of the day depends on if job was done or dusk. So he starts on Monday and he is going to see how the schedule works out and if he is getting off about 6pm or so consistantly then he will make his appt for then. He has to report every morning at 6:45am! OUCH! Just glad he has a job! I asked yesterday about the C and he said one thing at a time I got a job and now I will do C let me just see how the whole scheduling thing goes but I will make an appt because I need to and we need to do this as well. LostInFl
